Heh…I’m forced to chuckle over smoothlover’s story.
A “big guy” who could be a wrestler walking along with two women…and the group of men and women in their 40’s-50’s are laughing? Yeah…he’s got a lot to worry about <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
I shave full body. Reasons? Comfort above and beyond all else (I was honestly shocked at just how much more comfortable I am shaved)…and I prefer the appearance (I’m rather hairy by nature). And my wife rather likes it <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
This is my first spring going out with shaved legs and I’ve noticed a couple of things so far:
- Most folks simply don’t notice. This includes me…I’ve been quite surprised to notice that some of the guys I see on the train or out and about have been shaving. Once I noticed the first one, I started actively looking – you’d be amazed how much passes us by unnoticed.
2 Those that do notice don’t tend to care one way or the other. Maybe it’s that I’m into martial arts (have been studying full-time for the better part of 10 years now) and generally hang out with guys from the school (I’m pretty sure I also tend to have the general bearing and attitude of a fighter). Maybe it’s that I’m physically fit (shaving has actually helped get me into the best shape of my life – removes any doubt as to whether I’m getting chunky or not). Maybe it’s that I simply don’t care what they think and make that clear in my attitude and reaction.
I’m going with the latter. If you go out there worrying about what other people think, then they will (a) be more likely to tell you exactly what they think and (b) be more likely to take on extreme opinions simply because they think they should. If you go out there not caring what everyone else thinks, you’ll find that most folks simply don’t care…and the ones that do are safely relegated to the realm of meddlesome pricks.
Every one of us has something odd. Something that sets us apart. I shave. In the grand scheme of things, this is so minor a thing as to be laughable. Heck, most folks seem to think I look one heck of a lot better this way than when I was competing with the dogs for the shedding brush. There’s worse things in this world than to have folks mistakenly think you’re trying to get into modeling.
I’ve got friends who are extremely hairy (worse than I am/was). They have no problems going out in shorts. They look one heck of a lot more “odd” than I do. If what you’re after is social acceptance, the only thing you can do is simply be confident in how you feel comfortable (whatever that is). That’s it.
If you’re hairy, you stand out and are socially “different”. If you shave, you stand out and are socially “different”. If you trim you stand out and are socially “different”.
So be different. Enjoy it. Revel in it.