Thanks for your comments! I would hope that a relationship or attraction isn’t based solely on the amount of hair that one has–there really are some more important things to be considered! You’re right that the media or fashion magazines are pushing the so-called “metrosexual” image to an extent which is not entirely realistic but I don’t think that most men feel they have to look like Chippendale models for women to find them attractive–LOL!!! IMHO, this recent trend might help encourage men to do things that they were otherwise embarassed or self-conscious about doing. Really, why should men feel “guilty” or embarassed because they take care of their appearance or want to get waxed or have a facial? If anything, men need to take better care of their faces due to all the abrasion and bleeding that frequent shaving casues (especially, if you have dry and allergic skin like myself)!
You mentioned that you prefer a more “rugged” look and some women on this forum have mentioned that they equate “hairiness to manliness”. The idea that a “hairy” man is more masculine is kinda illogical to me since men have been removing body hair for thousands of years! The ancient Romans and Greeks removed hair before they went into battle to make it easier to treat wounds and I suppose they also liked showing off their muscle tone too! The ancient Egyptians removed hair from all imaginable places upon reaching adulthood as a means of purification.
If we really wanted to be “natural” men wouldn’t shave their beards and women wouldn’t shave their legs or anything else. I don’t know where the idea that women have to be hairless came from! In a more perfect world, one could choose whether he or she wanted to be more or less hairy! Having said that, many women in Germany don’t shave their armpits (including my former Austrian girlfriend) and that was never a problem with me. I’ve also seen some women in Europe with a fair amount of leg hair and really think it should be up to the individual to decide if they shave or not. Personally, I like the smooth feel of skin for it’s comfort and being able to stay cool. I have very little chest hair naturally and no back hair–I think I look better without that small patch on my chest.
The media really creates some stupid “ideals” or norms which society should supposedly live up to and people are so worried about whether they fit in or not. I hope that people will think more independently and do what they want by not blindly following these so-called “societal norms” of how they should act or look!