I am in a somewhat similar position, I had 4000 grafts transplanted in my hairline (they claim), like you they stick out a lot compared to my native hair, they are way thicker, the angles are wrong. I want them removed too.
The first thing I want to say is that if you’re like me, it’s probably your body dysmorphia that made you get the transplant in the first place, and it’s body dysmorphia that makes you obsess over the unnatural transplant. People around me barely notice or pay any attention to it.
If you do get it removed, will you obsess over the pitting/cobblestoning/fue scars that you got from the transplant? Will you be ok if hair removal doesn’t give you back exactly the look you had previously? You get the idea, first and foremost it’s important to be at peace with yourself as much as possible before you take drastic steps to alter your appearance again. Right now I can tell that you’re understandably very distressed with your transplant results. I wouldn’t rush anything. You mention you are already in therapy, this might be something worth discussing with your therapist, as well as consulting with a dermatologist to get an opinion. Doing nothing is also always an option.
If you decide to go for removal, I have found a few people who had it done via three different methods : FUE removal, electrolysis and laser hair removal. Each method has its pros and cons.
FUE removal :
An experienced hair transplant surgeon could remove the grafts and implant them back in your donor or other areas of the scalp. The benefit would be that some of the hair can be “saved” unlike in the other two methods. However this would be require multiple procedures, be extremely expensive, and could lead to scarring as well.
This user on Hair Restoration Network forum had a repair with Dr Bisanga in Belgium with satisfying results.
This user on Hairloss experience forum had 4 repair transplants with Dr Feriduni en Belgium.
This user on Hair Restoration Network forum had 3 repair repair transplants with Dr Mwamba in Belgium.
Electrolysis :
Electrolysis will be time consuming and could be expensive too (though much less than FUE removal), but it is permanent.
I asked if I could get my transplant removed via electrolysis in a thread on this forum a few days ago. For what it’s worth, I don’t think it would take 3 years. According to someone on that thread, removing my 4000 grafts would take no more than 15 hours, if you do a one hour session every 2 weeks, that’s about 7 months. It could be less giving you had less grafts, but I’m just parroting what I heard, I haven’t gone through with it myself.
This user on Hairtell forum had his hair transplant in the hairline removed via electrolysis.
This user on Reddit removed some grafts in his hairline via electrolysis.
This user on Hairloss Experience Forum had some grafts removed via electrolysis.
Laser :
Laser hair removal is probably the cheapest option, but it is not very precise, especially if you want to target specific areas in the hairline and avoid damaging your native hair, and it is not always permanent.
This user on reddit used laser hair removal to remove transplanted hairs on his hairline.
Dr Luciana Takata explains a procedure involving Alexandrite Laser Removing of bad hair grafts : Patient hard surgery 15 months prior, aggressive hairline, not natural, multigrafts in hairline. She got part of it removed with 2-3 sessions of Alexandrite laser hair removal and then created a more natural hairline.
Dr Bruno Pinto explaining how he sent the patient to a laser clinic : He sent his patient to a laser hair removal clinic and they took out his transplanted hair to give him his native hairline back.
Someone I talked to online (it was DMs so I can’t share it) got laser hair removal on a transplant they had done ten years ago with most of the hair removed after 3 sessions.
My advice : take care of your mental health, take your time, consult medical professionals, and consider all the options listed above (including doing nothing). I personally plan to let my scalp heal for a bit longer and explore laser/electrolysis options.