The pain is realll

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#1

I’m glad that I found this forum because I want to actually live my life.

Hair is seriously taking my life over. And I know that people say, oh its just hair, move on, but it’s not like that. You can’t really say anything until you have the problem.

I have hair everywhere. EVERYWHERE.

I look at people at school, and every place I go. People who wear tank tops freely, peopole who can go to the beach in a bikini, people who can tie their hair up, and I get so frustrated and mad because I can’t do a single thing because of my hairiness problem.

I often get jealous of hair-less people. I ask, whyy mee? Hair-less people don’t have to worrry about anything.

Being hairy has put a big strain on me. I hate being different in this way.

I’m so sad and depressed all the time because the hair on my body dictates everything that I do in life. I feeel like I’ve missed out on a lot of things in life just because I am hairy.

THis summer, I won’t get to wear a bikini. NOPEEE.

I have hair on my back, with the most amounts near the top line going down and my lower back. The other areas are light with hair but it still matters. I have hair on my tiny hairs on my chest area and I hate that because I feel so bad when I wear shirts that cut low. And its not even low low tops. It’s like a normal shirt. My stomach has hair, not only the trail but everywhere else, but the trail and around my belly button is the hairist. Of course I have hair on my legs, but I always wondered if other people have hair on their thigh areas. I really don’t know what normal is because I’m not normal. I have hair on my arms, and not just the lower part of my arm, but the top part of my arm too. ANd that last thing that I absolutely hate because there’s no way out of this, is my face. My freakin’ sideburns are getting worse, and I’m starting to get hair all over my face noww. When I get tanned, the hair doesn’t show, but right now I have lots of acne on my face that I can’t go in the sun.

This is putting a big toll on my life.

I have 0 self confidence and self esteem. I wish I wasn’t like this. I’m afraid to be with a person because of this problem.

My skin is white, and my hair is black.

I’m wondering if laser will fix this problem. because if it doesn’t i don’t know what will. I probably will just giveee up.

I’m currently doing electrolysis on my under arms. They are almost clear. It kills thoughh.

I’m just very depressedddd…

#2

You are basically feeling the same thing as almost everyone posting on this forum and as you can tell we are over 14,000 members now. So you are definitely not alone. I’ve gone through all these feelings myself and have finally been taken care of the problem over the past 2 years that allowed me to live my life more freely. I do have a few question for you so you can get started.

  1. How old are you?
  2. Where on your face do you have hair?
  3. Which areas bother you most?
  4. Which areas have the most coarse hair?

From what you described, you have a very similar situation to what I had on the stomach and bikini. laser treatments (effective ones with alex laser) solved the bikini problem. I would strongly recommend that. For the stomach, 4 laser treatments got rid of the coarsest part in the middle, but I needed to finish with electrolysis on the fine hair all around that area. Underarms were also simple with 5 laser treatments and then electrolysis to finish on the sparse hairs that remained.

I think first you need to see an endocrinologist to make sure you don’t have a medical condition causing this that cannot be alleviated with certain birth control etc. The fact that you have hair on your face and acne are some of the indicators that this can be happening. If you do, the medication can prevent future growth so you can tackle what’s there now.

Then, you should make a plan of how to target all your areas. You should concentrate on those areas that bother you most and have the most dark coarse hair and start laser there (please do extensive research in order to get the best results with this first - use the FAQs on the LHR section of the forum). You can also do electrolysis on your face and any other areas that have fine hair at the same time.

Btw, if you start laser soon, you can most definitely wear a bikini in the summer. That area gets great results with proper treatment and you seem to be a good candidate. You will get rid of the bulk of the hair by summer time and you will have hairfree periods between treatments anyways.

p.s. most women have hair on their thighs. the hair on mine are finer and lighter than those on my lower legs (I just had my first treatment on my lower legs actually.)

#3
  1. How old are you?
  2. Where on your face do you have hair?
  3. Which areas bother you most?
  4. Which areas have the most coarse hair?

I’m 17.
Sideburns, mustache, and cheek area.
Everywhere.
I’m not sure what coarse means, is that thickness??

#4

the hair on your bikini and underarms would probably be most coarse. it means structurally each hair is thick. laser works best on that type of hair. electrolysis is the only effective option for pretty fine hair, and also best for anything on the face.

you’re young and should definitely see an endocrinologist and get some testing done. he might be able to put you on a birth control pill like Yasmine that controls hormones and can clear up your acne at the same time.

#5

The thing is that I’m scared use birth control. Also, my parents don’t want me taking it.
I’m not sure how coarse my hair is then.

Have you done electrolysis?

I’m scared of getting scarring on my face and stufff. And I’m scared that its gonna take forever.

I think my underarms might be scarred from electrolysis and I hate scars. Its like pitting with wrinkles I think. My mom says it will heal, and that the level the electrolysist is using is on a higher setting.

#6

Have you considered applying a topical anethestic to your underarms one hour prior to treatment? EMLA will work for this area.

Have you communicated with your electrologist about the pain? Many times, we can find comfortable levels that work. This is very possible with a quality, updated epilator. Don’t know what your practitioner uses?

It sounds like LASER would have been a better option for your underams, but you are almost finished per electrolysis.

Do you think it wise to stick with the electrologist you are with now if you decide to focus on your face? I’m not so sure about the pitting and wrinkles you describe on your underarms. I have never had this as an outcome on my clients. I guess I’m wondering if you felt like you were overtreated many times in this area and did it take a long time to heal? A picture would help. If your underarm skin manifestations are the result of poor electrolysis, I would not proceed with this practitioner for facial areas.

Please understand and be reassured that good electrolysis outcome leaves the skin in great shape minus the hair. Thousands of people worldwide are getting excellent electrolysis care every single day. You must sample different electrologists and decide who is best for you. I’m sure your parents will help you along. Part of getting out of the depression dump is making a plan and just going forth with the plan. You sound like a candidate for laser in some places and electrolysis in others, but you need to find skilled, caring professionals with the best equipment no matter what modality you decide to use.

I’m glad you vented here. Everybody needs their moment to that. There are so many people here that will gladly listen and then advise you. You are in a good company of listeners and problem solvers.

Dee

#7

Yes, I’ve had both laser and electrolysis with great results. You must check out several electrologists before selecting one. A skilled one will not leave any marks or scars. Laser is best option for areas like underarms, bikini, and legs as the hair is usually coarse. What that means usually is if you shave, the hairs can still be seen with a shadow or grow back fast and very prickly because they’re so thick. Compare the hair on your bikini to the hair on your back and you will probably see what I’m talking about.

#8

I get a numbing shot for my underarms. So yes, I tell her when it hurts and then I get a shot so it gets numb.

Do you think now that I have done electrolysis under my arms that it was a bad idea?

WHatever pitting or scars have taken place, is there anyway that will be able to get rid of?

Do you have a picture of someone who did electrolysis on their face?

and thank you again, because it really HELPS!

#9

Can electrolysis be done quickly if you go multiple times?

#10

I’m just feeling so down right now, I feeel like my options are outrageous.

My life is just over. I think I just have to accept that.

#11

My parents don’t freakin care. I asked them to take me to an endo. and they laughed at me. They think that “I haven’t seen hairy people”…ohhh please. ANd they think that I shouldn’t make a big problem out of it, and I should stop worrrying about it.

#12

So, your parent’s don’t care and think you are exaggerating and your are not hairy. Who has been paying for the electrolysis for your underarms and the numbing shots for two years?

By the way, does the electrologist personally inject you with medicine??? Just how does that work?

Oh, yes, you will need multiple treatments for electroylsis, just like laser. Both require a year or more of regular,dedicated commitment. That’s about as quick as it gets. That’s why one has to be patient to achieve all things. So, I understand why you said your options are outrageous,we all feel (or felt) that way. That’s why we support one another the best we can, because it hurts to be hairy for many people.

#13

you can make the process of electrolysis faster by going in every time the new hair pops up and always staying clear of hair. that way you shouldn’t need more than a year worth of treatments.

I don’t have any scarring or any signs of electrolysis after treatments on my face, upper lip and eyebrows. you just need to sample a few to find the best one.

electrolysis is fine for underarms, but in the future, with your skin and hair type, laser is probably the best option for coarse hair as long as you also find a good machine and person to do it. you need to do a lot of research to get the best treatments.

if you’re 18, you should be able to see an endo without your parents, as long as you have an insurance card on you.