Hello, everyone. This is my first post in the forum. I found it yesterday and spent hours and hours reading and crying.
I have struggled with heavy facial hair since I have been 15 years old. I have sideburns, as well as hair on my chin and neck. The absolute worst is the sideburns. I’ve tried everything (except waxing, as I don’t have the courage to let it grow out long enough for that) and nothing ever worked. I have been shaving every day in the shower for as long as I can remember. The last straw was yesterday when I tried to use an epilator for the first time on my sideburns (I know now to never do that again) and it didn’t work. I threw it across the room and I cried and cried. I ended up sitting there for an hour, plucking every hair out, crying the whole while.
It’s so humiliating. I don’t even want to put my long (almost waist-length) hair up into a ponytail at the gym anymore. I go through more makeup than I can say because I have to reapply so many times throughout the day so the shadow doesn’t show through.
The worst experience of my life was when I went to a wedding with my best friend, and she called an ex of mine (who I was still friendly with) to see if he’d like to get together with us after we left the wedding. I didn’t hear the conversation, but I heard her tell him that I looked hot, because I had recently lost 60 pounds. He said something nasty, and she hung up. The next day we were in her apartment and she called him to see why he was so rude, and he made some silly excuse, and then she made a joke about me looking hot. I heard him through the phone, he laughed loudly and said, “What, did she finally learn to wax her nasty face?” It hurt me so bad that someone who used to tell me he loved me, and how beautiful I was, could say something so cruel and hurtful.
Anyway, I found this board yesterday and read for a long time. I was so shocked to see all these wonderful posts by all you beautiful women (and men) going through the same things as me. I especially was moved by the posts where you all said you told your husbands and significant others about your problem, and they were all understanding and supportive. My fiance came home from work last night and it was all I could to to hold back my tears, thinking about everything I read. I went into the bathroom and I lost it. I came out and sat down with him and he was shocked to see me crying, and I said “I have to tell you. I have to talk to you about this.” And I spilled my soul to him. I told him about what happened with my ex, and how this hair consumes me, and I told him about the epilator. I cried for two hours to him, and he held me and he told me that it never once bothered him, that he thinks I am beautiful no matter what.
I asked him if he would mind if I went to see an electrologist, and I explained that it might be expensive and I didn’t want to spend our money (we’re getting married in July so money is tight right now) on that if he didn’t want me to. He said of course, if it bothers me that much to do it. So I am going to gather up my courage and go to see an electrologist.
I will post soon in the referral forum to get a referral to someone locally. I am sorry this post is SO long, I just had to get all this out.
Thank you everyone. Thank you Andrea and thank you James and thank you to all of you beautiful people who helped me realize that I am not alone, and I should not be ashamed.
I hope to talk to you all more.