This is an interesting question for sure. Personally I love sex and feel like I probably think about it more than the average male. I was perhaps the first guy in my school to lose my virginity (around age 12 or 13) and I could never get enough of my girlfriends up until about age 21.
But at that time I began noticing hair becoming more pronounced on my upper arms, lower back, etc.
As I became more self conscious about the hair I noticed my sexual desire decreasing more and more, as I became ashamed about it. I still love sex and think about it all the time, but just became more embarassed about the hair and became more uncomfortable being naked around my partners.
I used to always have a girlfriend and now, for the first time in my adult life have been without a gf for over a year. Now I feel reluctant to start a new relationship as I think I may have to hide my hair problem from them in order to attract them in the first place! Then it seems I will be living a lie with them, something I don’t want to do.
I felt like maybe I was being punished for being so sexually active when I was younger (which I am quite sure is ridiculous) or perhaps being punished for my vanity.
I think also it is a bit of fate because when I was younger I always looked at hairy backs,feet, etc as disgusting. I wondered how people could go out looking like that, and thinking that I was so happy I would never have that problem. Well I am 24 now and I DO have that problem…and when I began researching the issue I was so shocked that there is no reliable permanent method to removing hair!
I even wrote a large post in this section about how I thought “Has science failed us?”
I couldn’t believe with all the products out there to help regrow hair that science could not find an permanent answer to kill hair!
It seems we humans are experts at killing things (the environment, each other, even whole species in the wild!)…why was the human hair so difficult an adversary?
I won’t subject myself to laser or IPL as I believe the amount of money demanded is insane for the pathetic results delivered. I may endure electroysis (as is proven to be permanent and the cost is not as high) if the problem worsens significantly but am currently holding out for a breakthrough in topical delivery products (being developed by Sirna, Quest, and PhotoDerma).
Sorry I have gotten off topic but the problem insenses me because you are only young once and I feel that my best years of sexual desireability are being robbed of me due to this embarassing problem.
I wouldn’t feel comfortable going for the required 8-10 treatments of IPL/laser or even getting the areas waxed every few weeks because I just feel disgusted with myself and know deep down that nobody wants to see that! (I actually know a few beauty thearapists and they all say that waxing is the worst part of their job).
I could however endure one or two treatments with a “permanent” product if it did what it promised.
But then again even if Sirna could come out with the magic cream in three years or so, I am not so sure I would want to get it done right away as it is such a new technology, one might want to wait an additional few years to determine if there are any significant side effects.
As much as I hate the hair I am a realist and would never trade being hairless for sacrifices in my health…then again I think the hair issue gets me down so much that it may already be affecting my health (depression, etc).
sigh I suppose it comes down to my own ego and vanity really…so am probably cursed until the permanent solution can be found.
Hopefully science can deliver a safe and permanent answer.
Thanks for allowing me to vent…yet again!