People see this header come up and they expect my personal journal of hair removal. A lot of people skip it over. And I’m hoping that is what happens this time. It’s not my hair removal I’m going to talk about this time though. There’s a fair bit of drama and backstabbing going on on the board, and I’m going to express some feelings on it.Be forewarned, this post is not pretty.I’ve developed a distinct distrust for some contributing members of this board.
Several years ago I realized a lot of my hair removal references, seemed to be pointing here to hairtell. I began to read here more often, and eventually I posted. There seemed to be a lot of professional support for this site, and expert knowledge.
Along the way I’ve made some friends, and some acquaintances. Among them, are James Walker and Michael Bono.Or so i thought. You see, Michael and James pretty much strait up detest each other.And distrust each other, and each has expressed this to me. Each was equally colourful in their own way but Michael in particular seemed to seek out limelight and Drama, while James for the most part avoided such. Over time I’ve spoken to and gotten advice from both of them.
Some weeks ago James posted that he was having difficulty balancing health issues with his assistance of some disadvantaged folks, and wouldnt be posting here.In fact I think he is off on vacation at this time, though I’m not certain if that is it. What was clear was he needed time to recover, and was stepping back from a lot of things until he had them sorted out. I applaud this decision, and feel it was the best thing he could have done.
Then several days ago, a new poster here, started a thread ( or attempted to) and posted some pictures that purported to be of James Office. Yet several things didnt seem to add up. The text claimed the bathtub was full of dirty towels for example, but the pictures showed these thrown on the floor with no clarification by the poster they had done this themselves. Dryer lint was claimed to be mould. Pictures were taken of what should have been private spaces. These showed stuff piled up int the office and it seemingly cluttered. There seemed to be a lot of very close up shots of of the cluttered desktop for example, but no shots where this was shown in context.
Other things that seemed to not make sense to me, were the poster starting treatment then deciding to stop and go home. That they stayed there the first night, were there no yellow pages for a motel?They had to call their parents in germany for them to call buffalo and make a reservation…in buffalo? Why would they stay someplace that was in such bad shape reportedly? And why post this here on hairtell, when the electrologist in question is clearly, and has been expressed to be, absentee from this site? I left open the possibility that it was consumer activism, and asked questions rather than making assertions. If there is any one thing that this site has taught me, is to assume nothing, question every assertion or theory.I took a very neutral, but questioning stance.I still think this is the right thing, to question what appears to be because all is usually not what it appears to be.
So what bothers me about the timeline? Although it’s been removed, Jossie at one point commented this took place in feb-march of this year. She also stated that the person in question is now recieving treatment by her and has been for several months, if not immediately after the supposed treatment by James, very close to it. And she seems to be posting FOR Michael, which is odd. why does the timeline bother me? Because Jossie is booked up years in advance. how is it this person got in to see her almost immediately after this took place? I’ve always respected Jossie, and she has contributed much on this site, but there seemed to be influences that didnt make sense, assertions that didnt add up by the OP, and some very strange goings on.
Then, in the same Breath that Michael misgenders me and says I’m not a woman, and tells me to shut up and not ask any questions he reveals that he was ON THE PHONE with the OP even while she was there recieving treatment. He clearly was in constant contact, and coloring the opinions of this poster throughout the time this is to have taken place, and since!.. This concerns me greatly, because while Michael is entitled to any opinion he chooses, I’ve often heard of things such as him calling up other electrologists, and generally sticking his nose in other people’s business. Add to this, he’s now offering private correspondance on the issue? Something stinks in california and it isnt the garbage dump. Whether or not this whole scenario is complete fabrication ( which it may very well be) it’s clear that Mr Bono was involved, instigating, and interfering with James business. I can almost see him rubbing his hands together in glee. Even if i take the OP’s posts at face value, Michaels influence in the events taking place is clear, and I have to wonder if there might not be a decent defamation case with regards to his actions.
I dont know what took lace in buffalo in feb-march, nor could I possibly. I cant and wont speak for James. However the clear interference by one electrologist on this board int he business of another, is unprofessional misconduct. I wont condone it. And it has brought into question the integrity of some other posters here, which makes me extremely uncomfortable as I had thought these people worthy of respect and admiration for their contributions, contributions, I will forever question now.
So there’s no mistake, I have put Michael’s account on ignore, because of his assertion I should shut up and not question anything, and because of the clear trans-misogynist statement he made against me. I wont see any reply here, or elsewhere unless postedby someone else, in which case I’l add thaat account to my ignore list as well.
As for the supposed goings-on, I have no comment. I personally, and this is just a personal opinion, believe it to be a snow-job and that there may be some legal liabilities in the case that have not come to light yet, that have nothing to do with what happened between client and electrologist., but it really doesnt matter what I think. The second I questioned anything in that thread I was instantly jumped on by some people here and made out to be defending james, when, all I really did was keep an open mind either way.
Regardless, I am entitled to my thoughts and opinions on this board, and I wont be told to shut up by anyone. I’ve been taught to question assertions on this board. I’ve never told someone else to shut up, or that they arent entitled to their opinions but this was moost definitely being stated about me. I am offended by this, though I should realize that people do seem to put an awful lot of words in others mouths that are never ever spoken.
I will say I think it’s shameful for some of the professionals here to set out to attack the businesses of others, and to instigate the same. Such is in-excusable and a breach or morality. To put someone up to defaming the business of another, I’m, just at a loss for words . i really hope and pray I’m wrong , but what has been presented does seem to indicate that this is the case.
I’m never going to read a post here, and not question who the poster is, their motives, and yes, their moral integrity.And, I will feel free to express my opinions, and respect others rights to do so, but definitely not if they are constructing a fabrication to take cheap shots at others.
Seana
