I have PCOS and i’m covered in hair all over me & i have a beard since 20 years old, i’m 35 now. I’m mixed-race, half Indian/half English so this makes me more hairy (my indian genes). This doesn’t bother me except for having boyfriends, i get so worried about it as i know men don’t like hairy women.
I was wondering how all of you women with PCOS & unwanted hair growth & beards be in relationships and have boyfriends & husbands?
I currently shave all the hair off & i have to shave all over and it takes hours everyday. I don’t wax it off because it has to be half a cm long before you can wax it off. It is so, so awful having to shave all the time. I get rashes & spots from hair removal so that makes it even harder.
I’m currently having laser treatment on my face, but that takes 8 months to do that (one treatment a month), and i don’t know if it will work as i had 5 treatments on my face before but that didn’t work and only made the hair worse. To do 3 or 4 areas with laser would take years & years & thousands of pounds and i need a solution to it now!
I have a boyfriend at the moment, but i haven’t seen him for 5 weeks now since before xmas because i’ve been so worried about being hairy & having to remove all the hair. I’ve been really stressing about it with noone to talk to about it. I only have my boyfriend in my life right now & don’t know noone else & don’t see my family, i have been scared i can’t see him anymore and i won’t know anyone then or have anyone to talk to because i’m hairy and i really, really love him and i won’t be able to see him anymore.
He keeps asking to see me everyday but i say no. I’m so worried about what to do. I wish they would invent something for women (& men) to easily get rid of hair growth - like a cream that would dissolve it down to the root that you just put on you once a month. I would do anything to be smooth and i keep thinking about all the other women out there who just do their legs & armpits, that must be so easy and i wish i was like that.
I don’t know how i can live with a man because of this or go on holiday with a man. I’ve tried tablets from the doctors but they don’t work on the hair.
I keep thinking my boyfriend would be better off with another woman because i’m hairy, and if it wasn’t for that it would be ok and i would be so happy to be with him.
All there is is shaving, waxing and laser treatment and the epilator i find too painful. I can’t find a solution to my hair growth problem all my life.
I’ve posted this as i’ve noone to talk to. Any advice or suggestions would be appreciated, how can you have a boyfriend/husband if you are hairy?