marie, it’s sad to say, but there are a lot of women who have to deal with comments from others because of unwanted hair. Many doctors, etc. think it’s just a “cosmetic” issue, but you and I know that it causes very real problems that are far more serious than a simple question of vanity.
You face two of the most difficult challenges in hair removal: you have PCOS and are African-American.
AA men and women tend to have a lot more problems with hair removal (shaving bumps, keloids, discoloration from devices like electrolysis and laser). The options for AAs are much more limited and must be done with extreme care.
PCOS adds another layer of difficulty, since the hormonal imbalance caused by the condition can often make hair growth worse.
There is hope, however. You definitely need to get to an experienced endocrinologist for a hormone level check and possible medical intervention like Metformin or anti-androgens.
Definitely head to PCOSuppport.org for help in locating a sympathetic doctor in your area.
Once that’s dealt with, you might consider looking into a permanent option for facial hair, but only after you get your hormones dealt with. Spending a lot of money on permanent methods now will sort of be like trying to swim upstream. It’s possible, but it will take more effort.
I’m glad to hear that you have a good husband who stands behind you. Many women have to go through this alone, and we all know how important it is to have support and understanding when dealing with a poorly understood medical condition!
I am also very glad you found my little corner of the web, Marie! I will do whatever I can to help you find the information you need. Please let me know if there’s anything else we can help you with!