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#1

Hi there!

I have been reading though this site all night, and I’m overwhelmed by the support and friendliness from everyone that I just had to register! <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

I’m a 24 year old female from the UK (hence the username!)and I have suffered with unwanted hair since I was about 13 years old. I have really dark hair (Italian background) and have pale skin, however I tan really easily.

I started puberty quite early, so I was pretty scared at who to talk to about hair removal. When I was about 13 years old I notice little hairs around my nipples, and of course at this age I thought I was freak. I started nicking off the hairs with my razor, then I moved onto plucking. I continued plucking for a few months but I got bored of this and I was sick of the pain, so I stupidly started shaving the area (BIG MISTAKE). The hair around the area grew in darker and coarser, and it wasn’t just around the nipples - it was all over my breasts. I lived with this horrible secret until I was 21. I was so scared to tell anyone, not even my Mum, as I thought people would find me a freak.

I even managed to have a 3 and a half year relationship with a guy and hide it from him, by continually plucking and shaving. I would lie in the bath and cry and cry at the sight of my breasts. I started thinking that I was going to be single forever (what bloke would want me with breasts like these), and never be able to have children - because I thought I would never be able to show my breasts to midwives when they show you how to breastfeed!! Even more frightening, I was so disgusted at myself, that if I had have found a lump in that area, I know I wouldnt have had the guts to go to my doctor’s as I was too ashamed. When I think back - I was soooo niave.

Then when I was 21, I met this amazing person. I fell in love with him as soon as I met him. After a few months together, we were in bed and he tried to touch my breasts. I was having a bad “hair” day - i.e in between plucking, so they were noticable. I had to push him off me, he thought I didn’t want him, I cried and cried in his arms, and told him I needed to tell him my secret. However I still couldnt tell him that night. It was the following night when I told him - and it was the best thing I have ever done. He was soooooo understanding and it really did feel like this massive weight had been lifted off my shoulders. After nearly 9 years of hiding myself away and thinking I was a freak, I finally did it, I finally told someone.

He talked me into going to my doctor’s to see what options I had, which I did. I cried all through the consultation! She suggested Laser Hair removal. I have now had several treatments, but unfortuanately due to money (and the fact the hairs are no longer much of a problem for me) I havent had a treatment for about 6 months now. It was the best thing I ever did, the hairs are still there, however are very very fine, 10 times lighter and you have to look very close to notice them. Now I only gently pluck them when I need to (which is about once a month). I am actually thinking about electrolosis in the future, which hopefully will be permanent.

I am very lucky that I have met a man that I trusted enough to tell my secret. We are getting married next year, and we love each other so much. Most of my friends and family know my “secret” (if you can call it that now!). And for the people out there who are too scared to tell their mum’s - please do, my mum was upset that I lived with this problem for as long as I did, and did not tell her, but she was so understanding, and said she would have done all that she could at the time to help me.

I’m sorry this thread is so long <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" /> I just wanted to share my story with you all, so you know that you are not alone and there are people out there who love you for who you are inside not the outside.

xxxxx

#2

user:

I’m glad that things worked out so well for for you and of course best of luc with your man.

Yes, I can see that you suffered many years when a simple solution was available…but at least you have made a better life for yourself now…do keep us informed will you luv.

#3

Hi

Good to here things are better. I was also quite self consious about shaving my legs as a guy. Once I did it some years back I have never looked back.

Electrolosis is probably the best, not to mention doing something and talking about it. Thats always good no matter what.

I always thought my parents and friends would think I was gay for leg shaving, but the hairs were so long and dark combined with blond hair that eventually I had enough and just did it. Nobody really even noticed and I now know that it’s not even an issue - just do whats best for you.

Stuart

#4

I hope that most ladies who read your story get the point that they will be so much better off when they share this experience with others. Your mom will help you, or at least be someone to talk to about it, and any guy worth being with, would be just as supportive and understanding as your guy was.

Please understand that plucking is the worst thing that you have done to the hairs. This causes irritations and inner skin damage that leads to thickening and darkening of the hairs. It only seemed that shaving did that becuase of the amount of time it takes to see the results of your plucking.

You should have been sent to an electrologist, as with breast hairs, it is an easy road to permanent hair removal. I have never had a breast client I did not bare the first day, and we just moved into maintenance where I saw her on an increasingly less frequent rotation, and each and every time I removed hairs that she did not see yet, and took out the one or two that she had noticed. In any event, one is visually hair free for about 3 weeks from an electrology treatment, and would look the same way a year from that day, due to the way hair grow cycles work.

No need to apologize for lengthy posts here. It is worst to post short, and leave out valuable information.

Welcome aboard!
Don’t forget to post information on the electrologists you find in your search. We need all the help we can get answering the most asked question on the forum: “Who’s a good practitioner in my town?”

#5

Hi Again

It is good to take James’s advice. Go see a professional and let us know about him / her. Electrolosis will benefit you phsycologically as well as physically. I have expressed my opionion before regarding hair as an evolotionary hangover from old days.

Please understand that women have always had hair problems, but try to imagine a man shaving his legs and walking around in public in shorts. It is also important to realise that even this attracts almost no attention today. If I can do this, then you can see a professional electrologist without any ill feelings.

Good luck and let us all know how it works out. Have a happy and safe new year!
Stuart

#6

Thank you for sharing us with your story. I am so glad things are better now for you.

so I stupidly started shaving the area (BIG MISTAKE). The hair around the area grew in darker and coarser, and it wasn’t just around the nipples - it was all over my breasts.
I would also like to point out that this is a common believe, but not true. Shaving do make hair appear to be thicker, and make hair appear to grow faster. That’s simply due to the cutting end of the hair is thicker, and much more noticeable than plucked hair.

#7

If you are happy with result so far, let it be this way. You don’t really need to go for electrolysis to remove them completely.

#8

For the record, I recommended that she get it done with professional electolysis because breast hair is easy to treat, and be done with.

Plucking leads to thicker, longer hairs, and can stimulate more hairs to grow, and shaving them may be unacceptable to her because of stubble, or the color of the hair below the skin’s surface.

I think most women would be ready to invest less than $200.00 and 2 hours or less spread out over 12 months to never think of this problem again. A person who only has a few scattered hairs might only need 5 minutes of treatment every 4 to 6 weeks for 9 months.

Since breasts are not something a woman scrutinizes every day (can you believe that boys, they have them available to them all the time and they don’t look at them for hours every day) hairs can sneak up on them, and they may not notice them until they are in a situation where they wish they had taken care of that before they were exposed.

Do the ladies agree with me on this one?

#9

I am not commenting on the plucking, but thanks for the pricing information.

#10

Since breasts are not something a woman scrutinizes every day (can you believe that boys, they have them available to them all the time and they don’t look at them for hours every day)
Why should a woman examine her breasts every day?
Men don’t examine their testicles every day either.

#11

That was the point I was trying to make (although with an attempt at humor).

The difference is, most guys don’t know, and don’t care how many hairs are visible on their testicles. Most women however, would be mortified to undress and find visible hairs, that may have been seen by someone else.

As for the price info, keep in mind that someone who really only has a few hairs, appointments could be as low as $5 to $20 per visit.

#12

The difference is, most guys don’t know, and don’t care how many hairs are visible on their testicles.
Well, I do know after all those hair removing sessions. And lots of (straight) guys shave their balls, but nowhere into any hair removal.

Most women however, would be mortified to undress and find visible hairs, that may have been seen by someone else.
Well, for most guys, they believe it’s absolutely perfect for guys to undress and find visible hairs. (No shame at all.) There’s something different and certainly NOT fair for different genders.