I have been reading though this site all night, and I’m overwhelmed by the support and friendliness from everyone that I just had to register! <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />
I’m a 24 year old female from the UK (hence the username!)and I have suffered with unwanted hair since I was about 13 years old. I have really dark hair (Italian background) and have pale skin, however I tan really easily.
I started puberty quite early, so I was pretty scared at who to talk to about hair removal. When I was about 13 years old I notice little hairs around my nipples, and of course at this age I thought I was freak. I started nicking off the hairs with my razor, then I moved onto plucking. I continued plucking for a few months but I got bored of this and I was sick of the pain, so I stupidly started shaving the area (BIG MISTAKE). The hair around the area grew in darker and coarser, and it wasn’t just around the nipples - it was all over my breasts. I lived with this horrible secret until I was 21. I was so scared to tell anyone, not even my Mum, as I thought people would find me a freak.
I even managed to have a 3 and a half year relationship with a guy and hide it from him, by continually plucking and shaving. I would lie in the bath and cry and cry at the sight of my breasts. I started thinking that I was going to be single forever (what bloke would want me with breasts like these), and never be able to have children - because I thought I would never be able to show my breasts to midwives when they show you how to breastfeed!! Even more frightening, I was so disgusted at myself, that if I had have found a lump in that area, I know I wouldnt have had the guts to go to my doctor’s as I was too ashamed. When I think back - I was soooo niave.
Then when I was 21, I met this amazing person. I fell in love with him as soon as I met him. After a few months together, we were in bed and he tried to touch my breasts. I was having a bad “hair” day - i.e in between plucking, so they were noticable. I had to push him off me, he thought I didn’t want him, I cried and cried in his arms, and told him I needed to tell him my secret. However I still couldnt tell him that night. It was the following night when I told him - and it was the best thing I have ever done. He was soooooo understanding and it really did feel like this massive weight had been lifted off my shoulders. After nearly 9 years of hiding myself away and thinking I was a freak, I finally did it, I finally told someone.
He talked me into going to my doctor’s to see what options I had, which I did. I cried all through the consultation! She suggested Laser Hair removal. I have now had several treatments, but unfortuanately due to money (and the fact the hairs are no longer much of a problem for me) I havent had a treatment for about 6 months now. It was the best thing I ever did, the hairs are still there, however are very very fine, 10 times lighter and you have to look very close to notice them. Now I only gently pluck them when I need to (which is about once a month). I am actually thinking about electrolosis in the future, which hopefully will be permanent.
I am very lucky that I have met a man that I trusted enough to tell my secret. We are getting married next year, and we love each other so much. Most of my friends and family know my “secret” (if you can call it that now!). And for the people out there who are too scared to tell their mum’s - please do, my mum was upset that I lived with this problem for as long as I did, and did not tell her, but she was so understanding, and said she would have done all that she could at the time to help me.
I’m sorry this thread is so long <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" /> I just wanted to share my story with you all, so you know that you are not alone and there are people out there who love you for who you are inside not the outside.