I'm GOING TO GO crazy

I just can’t stand it anymore. It’s not fair, I 've had excess hair since I was a child. I’ve had upper lip hair since I was in the 3rd grade, everyone’s made fun of me. Now that I’m much older I was able to handle waxing, plucking and then chin hair started growing so much. I discovered bleach and i thought i had found something for my face. THEN body hair starts growing to much. i had a little vellus hair on my chest and now it’s started growing longer and darker. why do i have to have light skin & dark black hair? it’s so not fair.

i waxed my face and i dont’ know if it was a smart move. But i had to because bleach stopped being as effective for my face. what should i do about my chest? how come when I bleach it doesn’t lighten that much. I just want to wax my chest. It’s not fair, i’ve been tested for hormones and they came back negative. I haven’t even told my mom about my excess body hair because i know she’ll just freak out.

ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh I hate being a girl

Do you have the means, support and determination to start a permanent hair removal program now? If you are younger than 18, then it would be advisable to share this with your mother. I assume she already knows, since you had your hormones checked. Ask her to help you even if you think she will “freak out”. You can start focusing on one area and move to other areas of concern in an orderly manner. Study hairtell and hairfacts before you do anything.

Dee

I’m 19 and she doesn’t know. She does not have the same problem. I mean she has facial hair but it’s not so bad, she just bleaches it. She knows I have facial hair, but she doesn’t know how coarse my chin hairs are and how much chest & stomach hair i have. I’m going to try to start saving up, but lately every bit of my money goes toward college books. It seems like when I get one thing under control, something else comes and it’s just too much lately. i cant handle it. It’s one thing after another

Of course, this is very hard for you, especially if you have no money for electrolysis of laser.

I’m just concerned about why the hair growth is expanding and turning from vellus to terminal hairs on your chest and abdomen. I don’t know what kind of lab tests you have had or what approach your doctor took in general. If this is getting worse and you are growing hair where women should not grow hair, then you should be back to the medical investigation as your first approach. Can you let your Mother in on this? Will she help and support you? Tell her you really need her help, Lila.

My doctor took so many blood samples, she just said she’d test me for everything. In the end all I had was an iron deficiency. I initially bleached the vellus hair, could that have resulted in them growing more? I’ve always had black hair and fair skin also, so that doesn’t seem to be that great for me :frowning:

Is bleaching a good idea or not?

I showed my doctor my chest hair and she said it was “normal” she said everyone has it, some people it is just more noticeable. It might still be vellus hair but it’s just longer and darker? it’s not coarse (on my chest).

How much do you think I should start saving up, electrolysis or laser? I know my mom isn’t at a point to help me financially, I figure I can start saving up little by little. But I don’t know how much?

Bleaching usually only makes the hairs you have thicker, but it can also cause some increased growth of new hairs as well.

Great, that’s just great. Well, what do you recommend I do now? It seems like whatever I do, I just make more problems. Why do people have to think hair is so gross, it’s just not fair. i hate this i dont know what to do anymore :frowning: who made it acceptable in society for women to not have hair even though it’s not natural. how much does electrolysis cost? is it really what you guys recommend, instead of laser?

Since this is the “Share Your Feelings” section, I can say that you must take a deep breath and consider that our society (especially in LA) is controlled by the business interests. They live by the motto: “Comfort the afflicted, and afflice the comforted!”

Humans have hair on every part of their bodies except the bottom of the feet, the palms of the hands, and the majority of the lip surface. It is only by selling you pictures of airbrushed models, and celebrities wearing enough make-up that it takes a metal brush and scraper to take it off, that they convince you that unless you attain the unattainable that you are less desireable than you “should be.”

I am here to tell you that I have seen models up close, and what you see in the pages of the magazines is usually a far cry from what these women look like when they go grocery shopping. In fact, what you do see in the magainze is the result of a team of people working on one person for 3 to 6 hours of make-up alone, and then, after all that, they still digitally alter the photos!

Electrolysis, when done with a good practitioner can conquer any hair, anyplace, and leave one to confidently go on with one’s life just looking like one never had grown any.

First, however, I suggest that you reconsider why it is that you believe that you need to remove any hair, and from where you really would need to do so. I think most would agree with facial hairs, but when you get to all this belly hair, and peach fuzz that so many women want removed, you are just playing into the Madison Avenue Affliction Strategy. (and since I make LESS money when people are cured of Madison Avenue Affliction, you can belive that I care and am telling you the truth)

hm… how can bleach cause some increased growth of new hair?

Anything that causes irritation (like the caustic actin of bleach) causes more blood to fill the affected area, and blood is to hair as fertilizer is to grass. The bleach also “plumps” up the thickness of the existing hairs, making them lose color, but take up more space. (instead of thin black hairs, you have thick blonde hairs.)

I had a similar situation and bleached these two body areas for 5-6 years before getting electrolysis on them. It didn’t change the structure of the hair. I wouldn’t worry about it and just bleach until you have the money to invest in a permanent method (it’s hard for me to judge how much it cost just for those two areas since i had others done at the same time, but i would save at least around $2K). I always preferred to bleach as it looks natural on light skin. You may want to leave it on longer. The box always says 10 mins, but for me, it really didn’t work unless I left it on for 30 mins or so.

$2,000 is a very good buffer to start with. You may not need that much if you settle with a skilled practitioner that mainly uses microflash thermolysis. I predict this without seeing your face only because that’s the general scenario in my practice for 99% of the women I see.

Keep planning and keep positively realistic about this. Not all electrologists are the same, so observe your potential electrologist well, after you study hairfacts and hairtell. You want to make your effort and dollars spent count.

You will hear this all over the board, but, that is our cue to repeat the chorus:

Get as many sample treatments and consultations, as you can before you choose who you will intrust the condition of your skin to. You will be living with the results for the rest of your life.

I know it’s different for everyone, but how long did you have to stay with electrolysis before the hairs went away permanently in those areas? Like, did it take 2 years or more or less, for you.

Also about the bleach, I’m a bit antsy on it. One time I left it on for a few extra minutes and it looked like my skin was destroyed. Like the skin had white marks all around and it just looked so weird. I’m not going to do that again, it went away though. haha

btw i’m angry at myself. I just bleached my facial hair and the coarse hairs on my chin didn’t bleach. Now i am so angry. I should be studying, but hair always distracts me!!!

Hurry and save that money. A good electrologist can ease your distress and distraction problems.

I know that exactly feeling hun, the thought of hair just seems to drift into your mind whatever your doing, especially when doing something as excrutiatingly boring as cramming for exams.

Excess hair is crap and for a lot of people with the problem it seems have a habbit of cropping up in your teenage years (‘duh’, I hear you saying), when everyones already got enough on their plate as it is. Although it’s suprising, if you get the result you finally want after many years of battling for it, you do feel so much stronger for it and it helps with other aspects of your life. “What doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger”.

I know this sounds cliche and your probabaly want to throw something at me when reading this but stick with it! Just try to hold your head up high, even if your feeling low as ever and just think to yourself “I can get through this”.

And hey, at least we don’t have to worry about wrinkles at our age compared to a large chunk of the population hehe!

I really do hope everything goes well in the future!

Kind regards,
Benji

Watch it now! I resemble that remark!

But seriously, do worry about wrinkles now. They come from how you treated your skin when you were young. And btw, all teens have some physical trait to worry about. Even the most attractive people have secret flaws that bother them. I know I do. :wink:

The skin always looks weird after bleaching, but returns to normal after 30-60 mins. That’s normal.

It took me about 2 10-min and 8 5-minute treatments to be done with the upper lip. It took about 1.5 yrs for the stomach area. It shouldn’t really ever take longer than that, because you’re supposed to go in and get complete clearance as fast as possible, so that you’re only coming in to kill the new weak hairs that come in. And after about a year, you won’t have to come in at all. At first you’ll go in once every couple weeks, and by the end of the year, you’ll be down to once every 4-5 weeks before you stop altogether.