It always pains me to hear about people like yourself, who in turning inwards because of the problem, cut themselves off from the solution. Unfortunately, the furious plucking you have engaged in has, and will only continue to make the situation worse. You must stop that right away! You need to find the best electrologist in your area, AND you need to co-operate with your doctor to bring this under control, and remove all the hair that offends you.
The scars you speak of are most likely from the combination of daily plucking, shaving and exfoliation leading to skin tramma overload. You will only be rid of this problem by utilizing methods that will cause the least irritation, while not stimulating further growth, and allow your skin healing time.
I know this is little consolation to you, but men don’t really find this as horrible as you think. The fact that your body grows hair this way is not something a man holds against you. What you do about it is what he uses to measure your character and level of personal pride. It would be totally acceptable to most men that you shave while you attend to any permanent solution that will one day leave you with nothing to shave.
I will ask those people I know in the state of Alabama to give me names to give you, but I can’t be sure that I will be able to find anyone in your area. The only people I know in that state are in Decatur, and Montgomery.
Please take steps now to end your suffering. You will be so glad you did in a very short time. After that, you will find this whole thing to be just a distant memory. If I could, I would do your work myself, but when I am in Alabama, I an never anywhere near Birmingham, and I wouldn’t be there for more than a month (although that would be enough time to get you to a great start)
We will do our best to help you find someone. You just have to do your part and let your doctor do what he can. He of all people will not judge you for this.