Help with ingrowns & exfoliating

I just found this website and I am so happy that I did. I just spent an hour reading through your forums. I picked up some helpful tips.
I use the Braun epilator and have horrible ingrowns. I read in this forum about the importance of exfolitaing and moisturizing. I do exfoliate in the shower but I need some advice on exactly what and how I should be doing and what to use.
Right now I am using a rough wash mitt and I use Neutrogena Body Clear Body Scrub (which is really for acne which I really don’t have)
What is best to exfoliate with for ingrowns?
And should I use an aloe gel after? What about moisturizing? Does that help the ingrown problem? I usually moisturize with that Aveeno slow growth creme.
Please tell me what I can do for this problem! Unfortunately I have to use the epilator everywhere. My arms are the worst when it comes to ingrowns.
Can anyone help?
Also, does anyone have the recipe for a that homemade Tendskin? I don’t know how much of each ingredient to use & which is the best website to buy the Tendskin from?
Sorry for all the questions but I am new here!