I am a 33-year old pale skinned woman with hair virtually everywhere on my body. In the places it is “supposed” to be, it is dark and semi-coarse. But in addition to that, I have hair all over my back, my butt, my shoulders, my stomach, my breasts, my face etc, that is fine and ranges from blonde to brown, depending on the area and it is all kind of shockingly long. When the sunlight hits me right, holy sh*t. I found out I wasn’t normal when I was 21 and an ex-boyfriend saw my back during the daytime and exclaimed how he could not believe how hairy I was. Now I won’t wear a bathing suit and am very very self-conscious when I expose any skin. Bleaching helps a lot, but you can still see the hairs because of the length, and I really want removal.
I have been searching for a solution on how to handle the hair on my back and butt, which is really plentiful, long, very fine but brown. I’ve had it lasered at several different places and honestly haven’t returned to any of them because (here’s my pet peeve) it’s been really embarrassing. Most laser spas separate the menus for men and women and the woman’s options don’t even include options for buttocks and back – only the men. It makes me feel like such a freak of nature! C’mon, people, throw us hairy women a bone and don’t make us order OFF the menu. At one place, I asked my technician if I would have to announce out loud to the cashier what procedure I’d had done, because it was in the lobby in front of all the other people waiting for their treatments. She assured me no. But when it came time, they asked point blank with 6 people sitting around in an otherwise deadly quiet room. And it was so mortifying to have to say butt and back in front of a bunch of strangers I never ever went back. Once I was lasered through my derm, and the nurse first wouldn’t believe that I had hair on my back until she looked and then said, Wow! You really are hairy! I wasn’t expecting that! I just want some sensitivity and discretion, that’s it. I don’t want to have to announce my business 5 times to the receptionist, the whole office and random strangers lingering about. I don’t need commentary, unless it’s to assure me that I’m not hideous. I don’t want my files left out open on the desk, I just want to feel like I’m at the doctor and the doctor is sensitive to privacy concerns.
And on that note, any advice on what type of hair removal would be good for very fine long brown hair, pale skin, ALL OVER. Shaving leaves stubble… it’s awful. Waxing breaks it off and I’d be way too mortified to ask a waxer to do my back and rear anyway. I tried electrolysis for a while but it was sooooo slow going and expensive. Will laser eventually work? I’ve had 3 treatments over 3 or 4 years and it doesn’t really seem like all that much is happening… but it’s still only three. Scared to trigger more hair growth. I’ll do anything to get rid of it… makes me so miserable. Thanks so much HairTell people. You guys are amazing!
