body/facial hair depressing me badly

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#1

I’m a 21 year old girl and I have struggled with hair issues since i realized i had a visible mustache in the fifth grade. I have visible hair in places it should not be and I obsess over it and it makes me feel like a hideous freak. I have hair on my upper lip (wich i first started burning with nair, now i’ve resorted to shaving it) I have it on my chin (which i bleach, but I have coarse hairs that pop up and then i pluck them, which makes it worse), sides of my cheeks, crazy eyebrows…

but the worse thing is that I have hair on my hands and my FINGERS. Both the “mid-digital” areas. I’ve never even seen a guy with as much hair on their fingers as me. So i bleach it, but that just doesn’t last. I also started plucking out some annoying hairs growing out of my nose, and now i have visible little hairs coming in around the edge of my nose and coming out like where my upper lip starts. Not to mention the happy trail, and some wierd stray hairs that come around my wrist area I don’t know what to do. My mom acts like i’m being stupid about this issue, but I can’t help but get depressed because the hair can’t/won’t go away. I have obsessed over this for years and it has made me feel like no matter how much weight i lose, etc, i’ll always feel uncomfortable because of this problem and i don’t know what to do.

#2

We welcome you to hairtell, keke.

I always hated when my Mother told me that hairy people are strong people hoping that would replace my sadness. She didn’t really understand my pain either. Mom’s do the best they can with their kids, so we can forgive them their foolish statements.

I’m thinking that your problem is hereditary since you mentioned having upper lip hair in fifth grade, however, if you are overweight, have irregular periods, and acne, you should get a medical evaluation and a hormonal profile to rule out the root of having to much hair in all the wrong places. Are your parents hairy? Sisters?

Your depression and obsessing is interferring with the happiness that a 21 year old woman should be experiencing. There are proceedures that can help you and bring relief. Electrolysis and maybe LASER can bring positive change to your life. Take some action to get a plan and stick with it. Choose an area to start treatment and focus on that area. Read consumer posts in the electrolysis and laser forums so you are educated about removing
your particular type of hair with one or both modalities. Get a plan and stop digging a hole to nowhere.

Relief of your hair problem takes dilligence and money. Do you have your own money to pay for permanent hair removal or can your parents help? Where do you live? Maybe one of us can point you to a good laser center or a skilled electrologist. There are many good people that can help you.

You have a lot of work to do before you implement a plan. Talk it over with your Mom if you are still under her wing. Keep in mind that it is good to vent, but at some point the venting has to be replaced with a careful, ambitious plan.

Dee

#3

Hi keke9, I can see where your coming from, I was reading your post and this sounds just like me. My Dad is dark and very hairy, my mum has lots of hair on her face, but downy…so perhaps mine is hereditary. I have blonde hairs all over my face, but they stand straight out from the skin, and feel spikey to touch. I have this type of hair on the lip, chin, cheeks, top of and side of nose and even at my temples. My eyebrow hair is long and sticks out too. My body hair is also fine but stands away from the skin, I have dark hairs on all my toes and the top of my feet, as well as on my hands and fingers that stand away from the skin. I’ve had my bloods done and had internal scans…every thing came back normal. I’ve been getting Electrolysis for the past 5 years, and still I haven’t seen any results. I’m depressed and angry with everyone most of the time, I have even started to avoid going out unless I really have to.

I have friends that can’t see my problem, even my husband and family think I’m over reacting. How can I be over reacting when a 12 year old girl tells me I have a beard and mostauch (sp?)!
If I mention Electrolysis to any of them, they just say I’m wasting my money because I don’t need it. I can accept that I have the hair problem, but I’m finding it hard to accept that finding a good Electrologist seems to be a never ending battle…does that make sense?

I’m currently seeing a Psychologist and I’m hoping this will help me to deal with the situation. The aim is to change the way I think.

I have to be strong because I don’t want this to affect my 9 year old son!

This site has given me a lot of information and support, and I’m sure you will find it too.

Good luck with your mission!!!

Hugs
Maxine

#4

5 years of electrology and no success?!Did you do blend or thermolysis or flash? This is what makes me go to sleep at night crying. I feel like if I were 300 lbs I would be happier because I would be comforted by the fact that I could lose the weight if I put my mind to it with diet and exercise or even surgery…or even still - just be comfortable being overweight as this seems more “normal” to me. The excess hair growth is causing me major depression as well. I plan to start electrolysis really soon (as soon as my research is done and I know which modality to look for that is right for me and I find the right practitioner) but it seems so hopeless. 1 year I can handle but so many ppl have been doing it for years with no success.

#5

If I could do a face to face consult with Maxine, it would become apparent quite soon what “five years of electrolysis means exactly”. I won’t belabor all the variables that is needed for success or all the variables that will doom the effort. It’s all been said by me and others many times on hairtell.

Alli, it doesn’t matter if blend or thermolyisis or flash was performed. They all work like a charm IFFFFF a skilled electrologist is performing any one of those modalities. Maxine either got ripped off with undertreatment, improper probe insertions, a poorly timed schedule or perhaps she was showing up at her appointments whenever she felt like it.

Please take what people say into a thoughful process and don’t decide to get on the depression wagon because all you hear is
“5 YEARS!!!”

You MUST search to find a skilled electrologist. Names have been offered to you. Read this forum so you go into this with a sense that you are going to be successful because you know what brings success. This is the best cure for stress and depression, better than any pill I know. Get going, because just having a plan brings you a sense of POWER.

Maxine, this applies to you, as well. I know you have it in you to search and understand why you failed after five years. It’s never to late to face electrolysis with a whole new mindset. You or anyone here must understand what is required of you and your electrologist. I’m not proud to say that all electrologists are NOT equal. Please don’t blame the proceedure. If there are ignorant practitoners and clients out there, of course there will not be success. Electrolysis works everytime it is used properly. If she/he has good tools, all the better and I’m not kidding!

Dee