Begging!

Hair Removal Methods Professional Electrolysis
#1

I am wondering if anyone is interested on this site, the professional electrologists that have helped so many, would they be willing to offer their services free of charge to clear the areas that I’m struggling with. I know many people out there are suffering from excess hair. But I am so tired of spending thousands of dollars that I don’t have (I’m a student) trying to make it and trying to save as much as I can. But with the constant worry of my hair removal I can’t even live my life. I find myself covering up in the summer time, trying to wax every 3 weeks, because the hair is so dark!! My hair is really fine, but its all over and dark. All I want is a clearance on these areas, then I would be willing t pay for maintenance in my area. I know this is a long shot, but I’m hoping that someone out there will help. I will pay my travel expenses, hoping its not Europe that I would need to come to (would never be able to afford that). But all I want is to rid this hair.
I’m in a wedding party next year, and how will I wear a dress =( I can’t wax all year, it causes ingrowns and little bumps (my skin is sensitive to wax). I want to be able to enjoy my life, I’m so young now, I feel like this hair is such a curse. Its affecting my school, my health (anxiety, depression) and my overall happiness.

Please from the bottom of my heart, I’m asking from one human being to another, please help me.

Sincerely,

desperate.

#2

Because electrolysis requires many treatments over time, it would not be practical to travel far even for free treatment – unless you can’t find a good electrologist in your territory. Should you travel, you will still need to find the money for the actual transportation, food and lodging.

I suggest you contact electrologists in your area first and ask them if they are interested in exchanging services. What can you provide that an electrologist needs? Computer services? Answering phones? Making them a healthy lunch?

#3

I’ve done this before, and I would do it again. But I am in NYC, kind of far from Toronto.

I’m trying to brainstorm…

If you could come into NYC for a few days’ marathon, you could get some good clearance in that time. And you can repeat it once a month or 2. That will work.

Find some cheap bus rates on google. You can find a hostel in the city for under $25/day at hostelworld.com. Food isn’t so expensive, either. There are plenty vendors outside who sell a hot dish of rice and chicken for around $5. Transportation within the city is cheap, and you can turn this into a mini vacation of sorts.

Can we get any other electrologists from around NYC here, who could chip in and donate a little of their time?

#4

Thank you yb that is so nice of you!! Its not that I haven’t been looking in my area, trust me I’ve been for over a year. But its so pricey to get all the areas I want done. I don’t even want to be hair free as in not one body hair, I just want to be a normal female. I know normal is debatable but I really mean like putting on a pair of shorts, or tank top without worrying if the stubble’s are showing and revealing my secret. Or not being able to let anyone touch my sleeveless arms that appear to be smooth but really are not =( Or having to wait for my back hair to fully grow in to wax it, then have major bumps that appear, and within two days I’m not smooth anymore =(

Its a constant battle and worry that many times have made me feel like I just don’t want to go on. I feel like shutting everyone out (friends/family) and literally being on my own. No one would love me, how could I ever be in a relationship when I can’t let anyone near me. I know anyone you’re with should love you for who you are, but honestly, find me one guy that would be ok with a girl with a hairy chest, stomach, back and bum =( really I don’t you’ll find one. I hear guys at work talking about how when they see hairy girls (ie, on face or arms, NORMAL AREAS) it grosses them out, IMAGINE ME!!

I’m at my wits end, I’m DESPERATE (hence the name) I will be forever grateful, I know that means little to people, but to me a helping hand is something to appreciate forever. It would make the biggest difference in my life. I know some of you may think, if we do it for you everyone’s gonna ask. I understand that, I do, it’s a business and a livelihood. I’m only asking not because I think I’m one in a million, but because I truly believe it will change my life. Whats the harm in asking, if someone has the heart to help.

And YB I will gladly take you up on the offer, if you’d like to pm me for more details. I definitely will be able to take a cheap chartered bus to NY, its next door! Eating is not important lol, I’ll make due.

Thank you so much!! I appreciate it more than you can ever imagine!

#5

Also, to address Arlene’s comment, sorry I didn’t see it :$. I know it’ll be costly to travel depending where I’m going. But regardless if I have to travel to get the clearances I need it’ll cost me travel plus the money to clear the areas. At least I can put money into going somewhere and I know thatll be a lot cheaper (especially if it’s NY) I contacted people in Toronto, even asking for clearance of a few areas (free of cost) no one will help. They say they could give a discount of 10% of total cost upfront. Where would I get thousands of dollars up front first of all, and second I appreciate their offers, as I said its a business, but I’ve showed many my problem with hair. It feels like no one wants to do a good deed anymore. I swear if I had the talent and skill to provide a normal life to people I’d do it for the cases that needed it in a heartbeat!

sigh… =(

#6

For Pete’s sake…stop the waxing! This can make hair grow larger in diameter, thus be more noticeable. Shaving is fine. If the hair truly is fine, then the shaving will not give you the annoying stubble that is noticed with coarse hair.

#7

Desperate18,

Is that your age? Are you 18?
Have you discussed this with your parents?
Do they know that you might be leaving Canada by bus to go to NYC and stay in a hostel and eat hotdogs from street vendors for free electrolysis?

Any moms reading this feel good about your daughters doing this?

Des, do you have photographs of the areas?

Have you spoken with medical professionals about your situation?
If you have PCOS or some other condition that is causing the excessive hair growth, address that problem first. I have PCOS that caused my hirsutism and if I did not investigate my problem, they might not have detected my diabetes.
This is more than a physical beauty self esteem issue.

Still, I am wondering if you have contacted electrology schools?
(You’ve got the best electrology school in the world in Canada, I have taught and help develop curriculum in a couple of schools in the US and nothing compares to the Dectro schools). Get in touch with a Dectro Canada school and ask them if you can come in and get free treatments.

And let us know if your parents know what your situation is and if you have been checked by medical professionals.

#8

Hi desperate,

Please don’t take this in the wrong way - but, electrolysis is very physically taxing on the electrologist and they should not be asked for free treatments. If you were asking for a discount or a payment plan, it would be another story. I am sure many the electrologists here would be willing to work something out for you.

I am sure you will find someone in Toronto, you can save on the travel expenses and get treated there. I was watching a Dectro video on their website and seems like they have very capable electrologists.

I went through your earlier posts and you have asked a similar question to the electrologists here before. I know you are feeling “desperate”, but it’s not the end of the world… I don’t know a single human being who doesn’t have hair on their arms, legs. Why don’t you start small - something you can afford- the more important areas for you - face, stomach, breasts.

Having said that, if some electrologists do want to offer their services for free, they are more than welcome to.

#9

Hi nesense. I have been networking with electrologists for more than 2 decades and do not know of a single electrologist who has not provided free time or bartered treatments. We just have to be rational about the situation.

I am still wondering how old desperate18 is and if her parents are informed and if she has had medical diagnosis. Photographs would make sense.

#10

Hi Arlene, this is my personal opinion that asking for free treatment is not right, if you already know someone/don’t know someone who has fallen on hard times and want to help them out - it can be offered by you/ or another electrologist.

Also, bartered treatments are very different from free treatments.

I highly respect you and the other electrologists on this forum, in no way do I mean to offend anyone here. I am definitively new to the world of electrolysis and in no way claim to know what kind of network/ relationship exists between electrologists and clients.

The link to desperate 18’s previous thread on a similar issue: http://www.hairtell.com/forum/ubbthreads.php/topics/85033/1.html

#11

I know of people who have bartered goods and services for their work. One woman was even secretary for her practitioner, some provide cleaning and organization services, still others are mechanics, massage therapist, computer specialists, and the list is endless.

In fact, I have only ever known one practitioner who was totally unwilling to consider bartering services.

#12

Hi nesense. We have to be careful. We have rent to pay, electric and heating bills and the expenses go on and on. I am very careful about who I give these special bonuses to. One client actually forgot to play her, “poverty” card when she came in with her 18K jewelry on along with her diamond earrings. I know that I had to pay my way through college with part time jobs and my immigrant refugee parents had to work from morning to late at night… Personally, I never played the poverty card but I will negotiate with special cases and I suspect that eventually, those young and new electrologists will too.

#13

I understand that this is a difficult task and a lot to ask. To answer your question I am not 18, I’m 24. I have been waxing because shaving my back is first of all very difficult to do, and second feels exactly like stubble as it grows in. I shaved my stomach it doesn’t last long, and I don’t want to have to do this for the rest of my life! All I’m asking is for a bit of help, even if I have to see two separate electrologist just for a clearance! that’s all I want.

I’m not playing any card, I promise, I really have a tough financial situation. I could show you financial statements as proof, I promise you it is something I would never ask for if I was in dire need!

Also, my parents are not aware of my hair situation, I am too embarrassed to tell anyone!! I would just have to tell them I’m visiting a friend, I have a friend living in NY. Also, I have no underlying medical condition. I’ve been to two endocrinologists, and both have concluded I DO NOT have PCOS. I’m just born this way (quoting lady gaga). I have gone through numerous blood tests, and ultra sounds to have the peace of mind. Trust me I almost wished it was a hormonal thing, so I could be like oh I get it now. But really I’m just sensitive to the hormones activating the hair growth =( The electrolysis Ive done has worked! so I know it’ll work on me. I’ve gone to Ottawa to have clearances, almost 2 years ago on my face. This costs me so much money ($2000) plus travel. At least if I only spent on travel it wouldn’t have been so bad.

I know this is hard to ask for, but all I want are clearances, I will pay for maintenance myself. But I can’t get there without the clearances, and those are the costly parts. I understand no one wants to tackle such a daunting task, but I will help in anyway I could (ie. while I’m there, respond to clients, rescheduling, cleaning the office) whatever you want!

Anyways, sorry for offending anyone, not my intention. I just hoped someone out there could help.

#14

You said your hair is dark… have you tried laser?

Laser should work well on arms/legs/chest if your hair is dark, laser treatments are dirt cheap around here these days

#15

Hi begging,
I’m actually in a similar situation as you. Broke and hairy. Goodness, it’s the worst.

I see you’ve already been offered a deal by an electrologist, so maybe you’ll take them up on it.
If not then listen up: I know it seems hopeless right now but just remember “if there’s a will there’s a way”. Even if you can’t afford electrolysis, know IT DOESN’T HAVE TO BE LIKE THIS AND IT CAN GET BETTER.

Instead of asking for free treatments (I don’t mean this condescendingly) why not find avenues of making money? After all, it’s better to be dependent on ourselves. What if an electrologist offers you their service for free, but can no longer afford do so later?
There are so many money-making opportunities online. Right now I’m in the process of making an Etsy shop selling vintage clothing. You can also start a blog, join fiver.com, make an e-book and sell it, etc. etc. Also, I highly recommend you take a look at WarriorForum if you’re in any way interested in online marketing. Be skeptical and wary of scams though. Consider post count.

Trust me, I can empathize with you in every way. It’s just about taking matters into our own hands. People are capable of surviving extraordinary circumstances and accomplishing great feats to obtain what they desire in life.
I’m sure you are absolutely ready to rid yourself of your unwanted hair, and somehow you’ll go about achieving it.

Best of luck <3~

#16

The interesting thing is that we often have home users on this forum looking for electrolysis buddies, who would get free work, in exchange for either returning the work on the other person as you both learn how to do treatments, or for helping in buying the equipment and materials, and those persons usually get met with silence, instead of a full dance card.

#17

The thing is I have been working to save money. But the money I saved all went to hair removal. Trust me I’ve done it all. I lasered almost my entire body. My hair is longer than usual (ie. vellus) and dark, but fine!! not coarse. I got really bad regrowth and pretty much am in the same predicament if not worse than before.

I’m only asking as a last resort, from one person to another. I’ve spent thousands, that I cannot afford, max out credit cards, to pay for clearances that never happen because all I can afford is 1-3 hours a week. It’ll take YEARS before I can actually clear everything at this rate =( I just want these clearances, thats it! I can pay for the maintenance.

I’m a student, and working as many hours as I possibly can. I literally eat and sleep, and use my phone to reply to these forums. I hardly ever have time to use my computer anymore.

I would never ask for something like this, if it wasn’t a last resort. I have gone to dozens of electrologists, traveled outside Toronto, spent thousands on this method and that method of hair removal. I know electrolysis works! that’s why I want this done, not because of an easy way out, but for that initial helping hand to maintain the hair free areas that I so badly need =(

#18

I once had a client who delayed university for a year and worked to fund her much needed electrolysis treatment. Perhaps you are trying to do too many things at once. I was reminded of this person when reading this thread.

#19

I don’t want to delay education to remove hair. I honestly just wish it was covered by insurance. How its it not medically necessary? I’m not asking the hair to grow! Its growing internally! I’m so frustrated and so angry that I just wish there was someone out there to help.

Honestly wish I could afford this on my own, but that is impossible! My education is what will help my future. Now I would have to put that on hold to focus on the hair :s that doesn’t even make sense. I’m already older than normal, and have gone back to school to try to have a good future. I want this nightmare to end.

I guess I’m back to square one, which I never left.

#20

strangely enough, it is covered by insurance, if you are already being treated for something that has unwanted hair growth as a consequence. The problem is most insurance companies know they can deny coverage, and most people won’t sue for breach of promise.