argh.

[cheekymonkey2008]

I don’t know how all you other people feel, but this unwanted hair lark actually ruins and takes over my life. Even though I try and pretend that it’s not a problem - it totally is.

I’m a 21 year old female and I’ve had this now since I was about 14 and it’s just getting worse and worse and worse and I don’t know how to control it. I try to not let it affect my confidence, but I know it does. I am a real girly girl and I love looking nice, but the state of my face and my body makes me want to hide away. I try and avoid relationships, as any intimacy scares the hell out of me, cos they will have to touch my face or stomach or breasts and it’s disgusting. At my age, I really still shouldn’t be a virgin (not through choice I may add, but this body problem stops me from being with people.) I have had a few bf’s inthe past, but they fizzle out usually to do with my no confidence. As apparently, if I can’t love myself - I can’t love them either.

So the crux of the problem is that I have now thick gingery or dark hair all over the sides of my face and neck and it’s gradually getting worse on my chin. I have black hairs growing on my chest and all over my breasts and stomach. Which is awful because I have blonde hair and pale white skin.

I can’t keep up with the plucking and the bleaching. Even bleach has lost it’s effect now as it’s hard to try and do it in secret all of the time in a shared house. It never seems to work these days. Waxing never does any good and epilating just makes it worse. Shaving I find horrible as you can feel the stubble even seconds after doing it. Which is what bothers me the most. I can’t even bare to touch my own skin and I can’t let anyone else touch it either. Which seems to baffle men that they can’t get close and baffles my friends and family as to why someone like me is still single all of the time and I expect to be for a long time.

I pretend that only I can see it, but I know everyone knows - even if they don’t say it to my face. I had lots of bullying over it whilst at high school - but I never let it bother me. It is only now that it really is affecting me.

I don’t know where to turn next. I don’t have the guts to tell a doctor because it’s so revolting and un-natural. I know I need help with it but I can’t face it. It’s like if I seek medical help - it’s like i’m admitting it’s real and a problem. If you guys understand.

Only my mum has ever mentioned it recently and it made me very upset that someone else notices it - even know it is quite obvious. I even had a panic attack that night because it affected me so badly.

Can anyone offer me any sound advice or words of support? x

[imosm]

Oh, cheecky, I know exactly what you are going thru and let me welcome you to hairtell. You are indeed among friends and we do >really< understand what you are going thru and how it makes you feel. I am experiencing the first signs of freedom from the hair curse and after extensive research I have found that the only real way to truly break free is through electrolysis. Good luck with finding a skilled electrologist and starting down the path of PERMANENT hair removal!
Until then, remember that we are all going through this, and we really do understand!
~Blessings~

[Jaganess]

I feel your pain Cheekymonkey. My italian side has given me the wonderful trait of having dark vellus hairs all over my body. I understand your insecurity 100%. I am currently in the process of saving up for electrolysis but being a college student it’ll be quite a struggle. If you ever want to talk, feel free to send me a message. You are definately NOT alone in this struggle and you have our support! (Especially mine!!)

-Jamie

[heather_rinker]

hello there friend! i am so sorry to hear your story and I too have experienced this type of panic attack in the night time when your hair situation becomes very real and scary. I have thick long light brown to blond hair all over my face and i have been getting electro for five months on me cheeks and chin ( i have not started on the sides of my face yet due to not wanting to be overwhelmed with regrowthh because i have never removed this hair before) and i am beginning to feel just amazingly better about the situation. I know this is a long road, but it only keeps getting better as time goes and its wonderful to know that something is being done to help it. I dont have any advice for body hair, but please seek out electrolysis for your face and begin this process of feeling better about yourself and life. And please know that we understand! we are here to support eachother and listen to eachothers stories and please feel free to message me through this site any time you have a bad day or just need to vent. I will be praying for you, and take that jump into electroysis now!

heather

[luckylady]

cheeky,like many other women in this forum I to have had numerous panic attacks and fear of going to the doctor.I started getting black hairs on my chin when I was 21 and it slowly developed all over my body.The hairs on the chin just got thicker and carser because Icouldnt help but wax it.Big mistake,I just found out that waxing makes the hair stronger and tougher and harder to remove at electroylsis but not impossiable.

Please find an endroniologist that specializes in hormonal imbalances as soon as possiable,dont be embrassed this is their job and Iam sure nothing shocks them.You deserve to get medical help if that is what you desire and more women have the same problem that you do than you realize so it is quite natural.

As for electrolysis it is a miracle that Ifound out about it and all those days and night of thinking about taking my life and wondering why this happened to me are over.I just started my sessions about eight weks ago and the difference is huge.I havent waxed or plucked in those eight weeks and there is barely any hair to speak of.It wont always be like this but eventually in a year it will be like this forever.

    You are more precious than you think and your life is more purposeful than you think.You are ayoung woman who has her whole life ahead of her so please dont worry about it anymore because you can fix this.If anything this whole ordeal makes you stronger and it ultimatley teaches you  to love yourself no matter what you look like which everyone needs to learn to do ,we just get to learn it faster. good luck and please be good to yourself because no one else will until you do hair and all.