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#1

I can’t stand this anymore. No one knows, and anyway I really doubt my parents would fork out any electrolysis money.
I’m sick of shaving my stomach and feeling the prickly growth return in a few hours and looking at the obvious razor burn. I’m tired of obsessively plucking.

I can’t keep doing this. It’s become an obsession, and I keep finding new places with disgusting long black hair. And I keep seeing other girls who are completely hairless.
I’m tired of crying over feeling ugly.

I’m a kid. I shouldn’t feel like this. I should be able to go to the beach with my friends and not hide myself. I want to wear cute tank tops. For God’s sake I am aspiring to be a fashion designer and I can’t even wear my own clothes.
I’m scared my boyfriend will find out and find me revolting. I’m not healthy.

I don’t know what to do. I’ve delt with this for so long.

The earliest I remember thinking there was something wrong with me was about the 7th grade, when my mom’s friend’s daughter came over to go swimming. I noticed that I had a lovely black line of hair descending from my ribcage and passed my bellybutton, and she had nothing. I thought that everyone had that and they just shaved it or something so I always dismissed it. But everything became more evident as I got older and now, finally I’m 17 and I’m cracking. I think I’m borderline BDD (body dismorphic disorder) and it’s only getting worse.

I know the first thing my mom will suggest is counseling if I bring this up with her. But I know counseling will do nothing, the only thing that can help me is for the hair to BE GONE FOREVER please. <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> That or sasquatch becomes America’s Next Top Model.

I’m sorry, this is all so scattered and random, I’m just really frustrated and upset right now and needed to vent.

Take care.

#2

Hello,

Your are definetly not alone as you will see here on this site. I myself feel the same way about my body as you. I have dark hair on my face, arms and stomach as well. I have been very depressed about it and have even thought of committing suicide. Then i found this site, and found out that i was not alone. The people here are very supportive and will do everything they can to help you and answer questions, or just be there for moral support.

I am saving up for electrolysis right now, and that may be something that you want to look into and start saving for.

You are only 17 and i am sad that you feel this way about your body, but i understand b/c i started shaving my chin at age 18(now 23). I know with out even seeing you that you are a beautiful person with a bright future ahead of you. We should not compare ourselves to others(though i know it’s hard not to)but realize that no matter what you are loved by many people in your life…parents, grandparents and friends with or without the hair.

#3

Hi

Some dark hair on a girl is actually attractive. Obviosly not too much, but a light film turns me on as a man. Don’t be too despondent about your hair. There are many ways to get rid of it but none to grow more really. It’s difficult to accept now, but many men like a bit of body hair on a women. You are going through changes that many of us see. As a teenage boy I wouln’t wear shorts at all because my leg hair was so long 1 and 1/2 inches and dark while I had light blond hair (hows that for a shocker). It took me years to discover I could shave it off my legs and nobody noticed because of my blond hair.

This forum has helped me see so many other guys with the same sort of problems being solved so easily. Money for electrolysis and lasor will come your way, just be a bit patient and you will see life has a way of solving things naturally. Good luck!

Regards
Stuart

#4

[color:“red”]I have the same problem. And never in my entire life have I met anyone who has the same fuzzy (i.e. thin and abundant,) yet dark hair, all over their body (I’m talking bum, belly, lower back, chest, sideburns, arms, neck etc.) I feel that everyone around me notices it, and makes fun of me behind my back. I even make jokes about it to decrease the tension that is either real or imagined, I don’t know which.

Girl–I know what you are going through, and for the first time in my life, this forum has provided some peace, knowing that there are other people out there experiencing the same shame and insecurity which I feel.

I talk to my parents about it. The cost of laser is not an option. And they say get over it. I even (gross as I thought it was) grew out my stomach hair to prove to my father that it was awful. He glanced at it, and said everyone has problems. I was like, look mister; you are a slim, normally hairy man–YOU HAVE NO IDEA.

Here is my message to you (or at least the tool I use to cope when I need to): Because you have this cross to bare only makes you a stronger person. Yes, its embarassing and awful and sometimes tears you apart–but you are only stronger for it. Being hairy, if you will, enables your to better feel the pain of others, to be sensitive to others insecurities. And yes we would all like to be drop-dead gorgeous, but personally, I weigh the true beauty of the soul more than the beauty of the body. So instead of thinking of your hair as a cross to bare, think of it as a gift–your body will not make you sick or harm your life, in a way, only enrich it by allowing you to recognize the pain of others. And eventually, you will meet someone who won’t care about your hair–and if he or she does, then they are not the kind of person you want to be with.

I hope this helps. Just to let you know I am 18, in college have been tested for ever known horomonal disorder that exists, do not have polysistic orvaries or anything. I am just a very hairy girl. And I admit I hate it–most people chose to deny the depression and stress that hairyness evokes, but this site recognizes so thanks to all of you for your frankness and support and feel free to message me.

Quinner

P.S. Here is my cheap way of dealing with non-horomonal hairyness --and trust me its hard to be secertive about hair removal when you live in one big room with three other girls:

~I use the Veet Waxing Strips($10/box) for upper lip, sideburns, neck, you can warm them up (with your hands like the box says) and then cut them to the shape you need
(I recommend getting waxed a few times before doing it yourself so you learn how the pros do it, go to a nail salon its cheapest there, unless you are really scared then go to a spa first and ease into the nail salon and eventually do-it-yourself.)

~For the bum and lower back I use Nair in the showerstall before I shower (about once every three weeks)and wait for it to grow back (in the mean time I make sure my shirts don’t ride up in the back.)

~My eyebrows I pay $8 to have them shaped at a nail salon.

~My stomach is my most difficult area. I used to shave it but recently stopped because I HATED the stubble, so I am letting it grow out and then going to deal with it when it’s long enough to wax.

I have used this routine for at least two years now, it works pretty well if more expensive hair removal isn’t an option. Best of luck.[/color]

#5

Hello, your not the only person who has body hair problems. I have had body hair since I was younger. I really started to notice it when I was about 18. While I was in school I hated wearing shorts. I decided to get laser work done in order to get rid of my body hair. I pretty much have light thin hairs over most of my body. Since I have gotten laser, the hairs have gotten thicker and they are very noticeable. I have spent about $3000 already on laser work and I have also done some work for a person who owned his own laser company to get laser work done. My brother has spent about $5000 on laser and has done much more work than I have. The hair continues to grow back, since our treatments are very speradic. I have been pretty depressed about my body hair and I hate going out. My arm hair on my lower arms has thined out, but the hairs on my upper amrs has gotten thicker. I now have to shave it and it has gotten worse. Now I really can’t wear short sleeve shirts, because it looks odd. I have seen people with really bad hair problems, so I know I’m not alone and this group forum has helped a great deal. I will now be buying a laser with someone who already owns a laser and we will be co owners. I am pretty excited about this, because now I will be able to laser myself when I need to get laser. I will also learn how to use the laser and probably go to one of those laser schools. I use to live in LA and went to UCLA and I know the market over there is very big. Currently I am in Houston and the person who owns the laser lives in Austin and laser does not seem to be too big over here. The laser that I will be buying is a Gentlelase, which is a pretty good laser. In Los Angeles I use to get work done for $99 for 30 minutes, whichn is a great deal. Over here in Texas from what I have seen prices are about $200 to $250 for 30 minutes. If I want to get like 6,7,8 full body treatments, I will probably spend like $12,000, which is a lot of money to spend. My brother and I are going to co own a laser and I think our portion will be around $20,000. I know this is a lot of money to spend, but I will probably get more than 10 full body treaments if I co own a laser. We also thought that we could use the laser for business and make some money in that sense. We also thought that we could sell the laser later and get like atleast $5,000 from our $20,000 investment. I really HATE my body hair and I really want to get rid of it, so this is what I thought would best the best alternative. I hope that everything works out, because I can’t wait to start treaments again. The best thing I could suggest for others who don’t have too much hair is to work and save and get laser work or electrolysis work done. All of us look normal, but the only problem with all of us on here, is that we have more body hair on our bodies than others. The best thing is not to worry about it or let it depress you, but to try to work at getting rid of body hair. I wish you the best luck, Eric

#6

Wow, I haven’t been back here for a while. Thank you all so much, seriously.
Best of luck to you all. <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

#7

I didn’t think anyone else had this problem either. As I read your post, I felt like I was reading about my own feelings and thoughts. I use cream bleach for my hair, the only problems with that is that it takes too long, it only lasts about a week, sometimes only a few days, and while bleaching, it’s very itchy! It’s been bugging me much more lately. My mother has actually walked in on me crying a few times about it. She tells me that it’s fine and I shouldn’t be crying about it, but she doesn’t know what it’s like. I wear only clothes that cover my whole upper body to school, people always ask me why, no matter how hot I get, I tell them that I’m cold all the time. I have no other excuse. I can’t just come out and tell them that I’m hairy. Sometimes I don’t even want to see my boyfriend because I’m so sick and tired of the damn bleach, and even when I use it I’m so self-concious that when he touches me I jump. I just don’t know what to do anymore. I really need a permanent solution that doesn’t cost a fortune, and doesn’t hurt. <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />